Travelling with a new partner for the first time
No matter how long you have been together, travelling with your partner for the first time is an experience that will take your relationship to the next level. Whether it’s only been a year or you are jetting off on your honeymoon, seeing each other 24/7 for consecutive days will definitely make you discover all the little habits of your significant other.
Instead of worrying about what might happen, be sure to go with an open mind. After all, your daily routine and hobbies may not be the same. You can be an early bird, while he can be a night owl. You might want to partake in active adventures such as theme parks and water activities, while he might be more interested in chilling by the beach or having a quiet dinner in the hotel.
Nonetheless, you will definitely learn more about your partner, your relationship and even yourself. So here’s what to do and what to expect when you are traveling with your partner for the first time:
Prior to the journey
Choose a destination that you are both interested in.
It is important to ensure that the city or country that you are traveling to is something that both of you are interested in. Whether it is a rural or urban setting, agreeing on a destination is the first sign of a good trip.
One tip is to list out your wanderlust bucket list and pinpoint similar destinations that you both have.
Research on the various activities present in the region
Once you agree on a destination, delve into the activities offered in the country. Traveling together for the first time is already an adventure on its own but the activities that you do together will help you bond and even work together. It should be a mutual highlight of your trip.
Take note that just because you might want to go skydiving, your partner might have a fear of heights. Don’t be afraid to voice out your concerns with the activities, else, you might hold it against your partner and not enjoy yourself to the fullest.
Plan thoroughly to avoid misunderstandings
Your first argument can easily spark at the airport even before you board the plane. A little misunderstanding such as who would carry which luggage or exchange the money can ruin your trip before it even gets started. So once you have confirmed your flights and accommodations, start planning. You might think that you would want to be spontaneous and just take it a day at a time, but an itinerary and tasklist will definitely help you organize your trip properly.
When it comes to expenses, it is important to see eye-to-eye. Come up with a budget for the both of you and work around it. Consider the tangible and intangible expenses of traveling overseas.
Being transparent about both your incomes will avoid having financial disputes before, during and after the trip. Being in love won’t pay the bills!
A relationship does not work without compromise. You will not only recognize this when planning your first trip together but (hopefully) much earlier in your relationship.
If your partner insists on staying in a four-star hotel, you can accept the compromise if he pays for it. Or you both agree on the compromise not to stay in a four-star hotel but to choose a nice three-star hotel which will make both of you happy and financially secure.
Try something new
Don’t say no to everything just because it sounds stupid at first or feels odd. It is important to be open to new experiences. That’s the good thing about a relationship. It motivates us to start every day afresh and dive into the world that our partner is used to.
PRO TIP: Your first couple trip should NOT be a camping trip. Unless you are both passionate campers who know the ways of the wilderness like the back of your hands. Most of the time, compromising and saying yes is the best but sleeping in tents in the woods is not the most ideal nor romantic getaway.
What to keep in mind during the trip
Do not demand too much
One thing about traveling is that you should never have high expectations. It is one thing when you ask your partner to cook for you at home, but it is another when you are overseas. Being in a foreign environment can be stressful for both parties, therefore, always reassure your partner that you are prepared for whatever happens, as long as you are together.
Eat healthy food.
Of course, when you travel overseas, you would tend to eat their cultural favorites. Pizzas in Italy, Dumplings in Hong Kong and Burgers in America; these are some of the delicacies that you should definitely try during your trip.
However, try to eat a salad occasionally and do the cooking yourselves if you choose to stay in an apartment. Sneaking in these little healthy snacks will help ensure that once you come back from your trip, you would not have that holiday weight gain.
Smoothies are a perfect alternative to a croissant or a roll in the morning, while bananas, nuts and cereal bars are perfect as between-meals treats. If you only eat the greasy stuff or high-carb meals, you will become tired easily compared to eating healthy meals. Part of healthy nutrition is to eat as many regional and seasonal products as possible.
Take as many pictures as possible!
For as long as the camera has existed, photographs have been the keepsake of memories treasured. Whether or not, you want to share it with your friends and family on social media, make sure that you have pictures not only of the scenery but the two of you together!
Do not just ask your significant other to take your #ootd shot, but instead, invest in a selfie stick or a tripod that will help you capture the perfect memory!
Although all these tips are meant to be taken seriously to help you learn from your partner, at the end of the day you took this trip together to unwind and just be yourselves. If something goes wrong, laugh it off and talk it out. Communication is the best way to ensure that both of you will treasure this trip forever.